YA TO GARJMAND KARE YA DARDMAND KARE

EITHER THE ONE WHO IS OBLIGED TO DO A JOB/HELP WILL HELP YOU, OR THE ONE WHO HAS DARD (SYMPATHY OR PAIN FOR YOU) WILL HELP YOU IN YOUR NEED.

This is an old UP saying which means that either you pay someone to help you, and he may help you. Or the one who feels your pain and has dard for you, perhaps a sibling, parents or sons and daughters will help you in time of your need.