Take it or leave it, things....

AND PEOPLE ARE AS THEY ARE, AS YOU PERCEIVE THEM AND YOU CANNOT WISH THEM TO BECOME AS YOU WOULD LIKE THEM TO BE.....

Everything is as it is. It has no name other than the name we give it. It is we who call it something; we give it a value. We say this thing is good or it's bad, but in itself, the thing is only as it is. It's not absolute; it's just as it is. People are just as they are.

-Ajahn Sumedho, "The Mind and the Way"